Slower, Softer, More Me

For most of my life, I was that girl.
The responsible one. The helper. The high achiever who always had it together... at least on the outside.

I was great at anticipating what everyone else needed. Hitting milestones. Keeping things running. Even if it meant running myself into the ground.

Somewhere along the way, I started to believe that being needed = being worthy.

That if I just worked harder, helped more, stayed ahead… I’d finally feel okay.

Spoiler: I didn’t.

By early 2024, I left my job hoping for some breathing room and what actually came was full-on collapse.

Like, can’t-function, everything goes quiet collapse.

I wasn’t burned out. I was nervous system shut down burned out.
And honestly? I didn’t even know who I was without the hustle.

What came next wasn’t a glow-up. It was a slow, sometimes messy return to myself.

Through nervous system care, somatic healing, and learning how to not abandon myself every time someone else needed something.

I started asking:

What if being “enough” didn’t require over-performing?
What if success didn’t mean self-sacrifice?

Now I help other women unlearn those same patterns, especially the ones that feel so normal you don’t even realize they’re hurting you.

Not by doing more, but by coming back to who you actually are underneath the pressure.

Because you’re not here to prove anything.
You’re here to feel like yourself again.

My vision:

I want to live in a world where women don’t have to constantly prove themselves at work, in relationships, in motherhood, in life. Just to feel worthy.

Where we’re not measured by how much we give, how well we hold it all together, or how little we ask for in return.

A world where we feel safe in our own bodies.
Where we don’t lose ourselves trying to meet everyone else’s needs.
Where we can move at our own pace without feeling like we’re falling behind.

Where being real isn’t risky. It’s normal.
Where rest isn’t a reward. It’s part of being human.
Where success isn’t about doing more, it’s about not abandoning yourself in the process.

That’s the world I want to be part of.
And the one I try to build in my work, my relationships, and my everyday life.

These days, life feels slower. Softer. And a lot more honest.

After years of being the one who held it all together at work, in relationships, with family I’m finally learning how to take care of me, not just everyone else.

Here’s a little snapshot of what feels like home lately:

Morning person or night owl?
I’m a morning person… but not in the “5am workout and green juice” kind of way. More like: soft light, long stretches, no talking, and maybe a cinnamon roll if we’re being real.

Coffee or tea?
Tea lately. I realized coffee makes me jittery, so I try to only get coffee if I'm going out to a local coffee shop.

Small talk or deep dive?
Deep dive, every time. But I’ll entertain a good weather rant if it’s been emotionally significant.

Fun fact?
I love Stranger Things, the entire autumn and Halloween season, and that cozy, slightly dark fall energy. Give me the fall colors, a spooky playlist, and a cardigan and I’m thriving.

Go-to reset?
Walking by water. Lying on the floor doing absolutely nothing. Putting on a playlist and dancing like no one’s watching (because truly… no one is). Claire, my dog, usually supervising.

Books I love:
Marked-up, well-loved ones about healing our bodies, our patterns, cyclical-living. Also suspense, romance, witchy fiction. Some are cliché. I don’t care. If it hits, it hits.

Spontaneous joy?
Changing into loungewear at 6pm. A really good meme. Cancelled plans that turn into a solo night with popcorn. Claire snoring next to me. Music that feels like my teenage self.

How I say no (with love):
“No, not this time.” Or if I’m low on capacity: “I can’t, but thank you for asking.” Also: just “No.”

What “enough” looks like right now:
Slowing down. Sleeping more. Saying less. Feeling like myself without needing to explain it.

What I believe:
You don’t have to earn rest.
You don’t have to shrink to be liked.
You don’t have to perform to belong.
You’re not too much. You’re just ready to be you.

Kinda curious about working together?

Here’s where you can see what I offer - 1:1, group spaces, and gentle support for when you’re feeling stuck, tired, or just not like yourself.

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